Death's suitcase

I've learned a lot in the last few weeks but it still doesn't cease to amaze me how someone as wonderful, charasmatic and larger than life as you could be gone without trace. And without trace it is, as it seems that as we come to the end of our lives we pack a case for our final journey, we put in death's suitcase all the things that are the essence of us.

These things are the unimportant things that we put no value on in life, your smell, your voice (although that was something I could never get enough of), the way your face creases up in expression, the little things you did, your mannerisms. All the things that made you, you all packed up to be taken in an instant like you were.

Thank goodness for photos, audio clips and old film, the memories we make along the way and the things we steal from death's suitcase to help us on our journey in grief.

These are the thoughts I had while watching an old film of us in Paris last year. I wish we'd had time to steal more from death's suitcase but the time to leave came too soon.

Is this a normal way to feel?